Clearing out your wardrobe and letting go of some things isn’t always easy. I’m a somewhat frugal person and I tend to hang on to things that I know I don’t like very much simply because I feel bad. Maybe its that I feel I spent money on it and therefore need to get my use out of it, or perhaps it’s that I think maybe one day I will need it.
Whatever it is, I found that I was hanging onto a lot of things that I didn’t really care for anymore, that really didn’t feel like me, and I was wearing them but not feeling very confident in them. I finally decided enough is enough and I got rid of a lot of these things I had been hanging onto which I blogged about here.
But it wasn’t easy to do and I knew if I was having this much difficulty up till now to let go of certain items, well there must be others out there with the same problem. So I thought I would share with you a few pieces that I decided to part with and the reasons why in hope that it will help inspire some of you.
So here it goes!
1. A wine pencil skirt. Honestly I love the color of this skirt, but there is just one problem: I realized, I don’t really like pencil skirts. For some reason I owned several pencil skirts, but I honestly could say that I don’t really like them on me. I think they look great on other women. I just don’t feel like me when wearing them. Now I know I prefer a-line skirts. (I think I can even like wearing a straight skirt as long as it doesn’t taper in at the knee.) I feel confident in these skirts. So even though I loved the color of this skirt (which was the only reason I was hanging onto it), I decided it needed to go and then maybe I would make myself an a-line skirt in that color instead.
2. A straight denim skirt. Again it is a nice skirt but it’s one of those skirts that never stays put. You walk around in it for a little bit and it rides up and twists around causing the side seams to end up in the front. This drove me crazy and I would have to tug and pull at it all the time! I love comfortable no-fuss clothes and this skirt just wasn’t comfortable and was definitely worn with a lot of fussing, therefore, I decided it needed to go.
3. A red print blouse from Banana Republic. This is a very nice quality blouse and because of that it was difficult to part with, but the one thing about this top that I don’t like is the style. I now prefer tops that are longer in length and can be worn out with jeans or tucked in with a skirt. This top cannot be worn tucked in because of the empire waist. Also, I have to wear a camisole underneath it and honestly, I’m getting tired of clothing that needs something under it to make it appropriate and modest. So ultimately this had to go.
4. A LBD that I use to love! This is an example of why I want to make my own high-quality clothes. This dress was perfect when I bought it, but it quickly got very worn looking. It’s covered in pills and it even shrunk so now it’s a little too short for my liking. But I love the style of this dress and I’m hanging onto it to see if I can use it to make a pattern from and make my own one day. This has definitely helped me to see the importance of not buying cheap garments. This was from Target and I love Target, but I their clothes aren’t all exactly high-quality which means you can’t get a lot of wear out of them.
5. A summer dress. This dress is so lovely, but I really don’t like spaghetti straps. I always had to wear this with a cardigan in order to feel comfortable, but with the bows from the ties at the top it just didn’t work very well. Plus it is again a little too short for my taste.
So here is what I have learned by going through with this process:
- I don’t like pencil skirts. From now on it’s a-line or straight skirts and that’s it!
- I love comfortable clothes that I don’t need to tug at or constantly fix into place.
- I like tops that can be worn out or tucked in and that do not need a tank or camisole underneath.
- I like quality items that I can get a lot of use out of.
- I do not like clothes that are even a little out of my comfort zone with the length or how much skin I show on top.
All of those items were things I was trying to hang on to. But by letting go of them I really learned more about my style and it really feels like a burden has been lifted.
But was this easy? No! In fact, there is this part of me that is tempted to go right over to that pile of clothes to donate and pull some things back. Why? I have no idea! I know that I don’t really love those items but there is a part of me that says, “But they are still in good condition, or it’s cute!” However, now when I look at my minimal closet and see a bunch of clothes that I actually do love, it makes me smile.
Sure there are some gaps and maybe a handful of things that I will replace with something better, but now is the fun part and I can fill in those gaps.
So you see, being honest with yourself and what you truly love is important when finally letting go. So stick to your guns and only keep what you truly love, and don’t listen to those voices in your head that say “But this or but that!” Just let go.
My current wardrobe! (minus a couple of items in the wash.) I’ve never had this few of clothes before!
However, I will tell you I am having some major anxiety over creating a capsule wardrobe for the season that works best for me. Should I count my items or should I not? How many? and what to include? I’m toying around with a few ideas that may work for me, HOWEVER, if you guys have any suggestions I would love to hear them.
So I hope this may have inspired some of you when clearing out your closets. But what have you discovered while clearing out your closets? Are you having a hard time letting go?